Here’s one of my heroes, Mawi Asegdom, talking about the role of parents and educators in creating opportunities for children, students without pushing them through the door.
I remember seeing Mawi live, and was initially shocked when he said, “It’s not our job to suffer for our students. Even if they are seriously disadvantaged, it’s their job to find a way forward.” Seemed so cruel, not to suffer on their behalf. Now I understand what he means: if we simply attempt to take on their burdens (which is delusional anyway), we won’t empower them, we just may feel a little bit better about the problem. They on the other hand may not feel better, and won’t be any better off for our “sympathy.” Mawi describes his own ‘ascension’ in these terms. He has “walked the walk.”